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Comment on 10 Things To Never Say To Someone With A Deployed Soldier by Stacey

Stacey — Sun, 08 Jan 2012 15:24:52 +0000

Thanks! I got the whole shorter vs longer deployment thing all the time too since my husband was special ops. It’s annoying!

Comment on Don’t Contact His Chain of Command by Stacey

Stacey — Sun, 08 Jan 2012 15:23:36 +0000

You’ve made valid points. Thanks for commenting.

Comment on I’m A Bad Army Wife by Crystal

Crystal — Sun, 08 Jan 2012 05:34:53 +0000

Not doing this doesn’t make you a bad wife. But that doesn’t give you the right to put others down for doing this. Some people like the tradition of women taking care of their husbands and are happy doing this. If your not happy doing this that’s perfectly fine no one is asking you to. Every wife is different and trust me their is no such thing as the “perfect wife” No one is putting you down for not doing this so why are you judging those that do?

Comment on A Flight With a Soldier I Won’t Forget by AMAC

AMAC — Sat, 07 Jan 2012 00:36:45 +0000

This brought tears to my eyes ! Hooah <3

Comment on Don’t Contact His Chain of Command by Joe

Joe — Fri, 06 Jan 2012 10:59:52 +0000

I partially agree, except for the fact that the army wants and needs spouses and familys to be intimately involved in soldiers “jobs”. The primary reason is that being a spouse requires living under the same restrictions as the soldier. Move when they tell you to move, live where they tell you to live, seperate when they tell you to seperate. . . ect.

When you have been assigned OCONUS and dragged away from family and friends all you have is your family unit and the Army. Yes as a member of the army you need to respect that they are slow… at everything. Also you should definately think, would I contact my husbands civillian boss about this?

You also need to think, how does this situation apply to civillian employment. In your analogy you would be wise not to contact your husbands civilian boss, but your analogy is broken. If your husband were traveling for his company and lost contact with you it would be perfectly acceptable to call his office to find out what was going on. Especially if the office said they’d contact you and they hadn’t.

Don’t let the army make you feel crazy for being a planner. The fact is that they encourage and ask for the kind of envolvement that you were engaging in, at least on a theoretical level they do. Then they bitch and punish soldiers when families get, “too involved.” So I agree that you shouldn’t contact your husbands chain of command about much of anything, but I believe that this is a shame and that the army would be a better organization if the petty punishment and say one thing do another attitude were removed from it.

Sincerely,

Joe

Comment on Army Wife Chat by Katie

Katie — Wed, 04 Jan 2012 16:19:40 +0000

I am now an Army Fiancee. My soldier is currently going through AIT and will graduate that in May, which is when we are planning to get married. He does not have orders yet. I have a teaching license in TN and I am wondering what sort of process would I have to go through to be able to teach wherever we end up. If it is in the states, I’m assuming I could just take the PRAXIS test for licensure in whatever state, and go from there. But what if it’s overseas? Could I teach at a school on the base? How does all that work? I am willing to look for other kinds of work if I have to, but since I have a lot of teaching experience now, I thought I would start there. Anyone a teacher? Any thoughts?

Comment on 10 Things To Never Say To Someone With A Deployed Soldier by Sarah

Sarah — Tue, 03 Jan 2012 03:07:29 +0000

I just found your blog. My husband is currently deployed for the second time and I love your list…I think I’d add a few too! These are my top “don’t” that I have actually recieved:

Is he safe? (Did Afghanistan/Iraq rhyme with Fiji?!?!)

Time will fly/it’s gone fast (I’m so glad time goes so quickly for people when their loved one isn’t deployed! Ha.)

How long is he deployed? Me: 6 months. Response: That’s not too bad (If this is coming from another Army Wife who has been through a 12 or 15 month deployment, acceptable, mostly though it is from non-military women who have NO clue).

I’m so glad I’ve found your blog. It’s great.

Comment on Resources by Jason Henderson

Jason Henderson — Fri, 16 Dec 2011 22:52:34 +0000

I am writing on behalf of Vets Prevail, where I am a Veterans Outreach Specialist. We really appreciated the blog that you wrote about us, as getting the word out is the most important thing we can do at this point. In light of that, I was hoping that we could ask you for another mention in one of your blogs. As of this afternoon, we have launched our program on the national level. After 3 years of development, and test runs, we have a program that is ready to help veterans transition and adjust back to the realities of “normal” life. Now that we have the program, we simply need to inform as many Veterans as we can, about the help we can offer. If there is anything you can do, we would greatly appreciate it.

Comment on PTSD & TBI by Uncle Sam's Mistress

Uncle Sam's Mistress — Tue, 13 Dec 2011 23:54:23 +0000

Thank You Stacy for supporting and spreading the word for all of us families suffering. I think it’s extremely important to bring all the stuff, whether it be good or bad, to the front because for every one who wants to not look…there are five more desperately looking for answers. I will be having surgeries in Jan of 2012 so have a TON of resources I will be adding to the page. I am limited on tab spaces, so will have to create a second page for them all. If anyone needs a good shoulder, or needs answers to questions…my email is always open and you can find me on my site. Thank you again!
Uncle Sam’s Mistress

Comment on 2011 Christmas Mail Dates for APO Addresses by Stacey

Stacey — Sun, 11 Dec 2011 13:58:36 +0000

The deadline is the day they guarantee that if you mail it by, it will arrive by Christmas. Try priority mail and cross your fingers. My packages generally took 7 days if I sent by priority no matter when I sent them.