I’m A Bad Army Wife

Posted on October 24th, 2011 by Stacey

Over the years, I’ve read numerous stories from the “perfect” Army wife about getting up with her soldier at o’dark thirty to fix his breakfast, lay out his clothes (freshly ironed, of course) and pack his lunch. She then sends him off on his day while standing by the window smiling and waving.

Even as I write this, I feel like I’m making it up. But I so am not. I know people who do this every day. And my question is…WHY?

I married an adult. If he can be expected to go to a foreign land and fight for our country, I’m fairly certain he can get himself out of bed, fix his breakfast and find his own clothes to put on. I’m not babying him and doing it for him.

First, I’m not a morning person. You don’t want me interacting with you when it’s still dark outside and I haven’t yet gotten in my 12. Promise.

Second, is he up fixing breakfast for me? Is he laying out my clothes for the day? Packing my lunch? Um, the answer to that would be no.

Third, I have a job too. Just because he has to get up in the middle of the night to go to work doesn’t mean I have to.

I’ve always been perplexed by the people who do this for their spouse. Maybe I am a bad Army wife but I’ll live with that title not to wait on my husband hand and foot. When he deploys overseas, will his battle buddy do all these things for him? No! He’ll suddenly become self sufficient and able to take care of himself. If he can do it under those conditions, he can certainly do it at home when his job is somewhat “normal” (by Army standards, anyway).

Agree? Disagree?

 

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7 Responses to “I’m A Bad Army Wife”

  1. Carrie Ann, on October 25th, 2011 at 4:08 pm Said:

    Agreed!!!!!!!!!

  2. Crystal, on October 26th, 2011 at 7:53 pm Said:

    YES! Even before I was a military wife I felt the same way when I heard of other wives doing this for their husband.

  3. Lauren, on November 3rd, 2011 at 10:00 pm Said:

    AGREED!!!!

  4. Gretchen {NewFashionedMom}, on November 10th, 2011 at 7:05 pm Said:

    OMG! This is too funny!

    A couple years ago, hubby and I went to a marriage retreat. A couple that was sitting at our table for one of the teachings were newlyweds. We were discussing Love Languages and what our spouse does that makes us happy.
    So the newlywed decides to tell the whole room that his new wife gets up every morning and makes him a smoothie and packs his lunch!
    In a room full of at least 100 couples, you could literally feel the tension in the room! The only thing I could say to him was, “Wait till you have kids”.

    There is no way I’m getting up at 4am to make my hubby breakfast… sorry!

  5. Stacey, on November 10th, 2011 at 9:27 pm Said:

    That story is awesome! lol

  6. tori, on November 19th, 2011 at 4:58 pm Said:

    I completely agree! It’s good for them!

  7. Crystal, on January 8th, 2012 at 12:34 am Said:

    Not doing this doesn’t make you a bad wife. But that doesn’t give you the right to put others down for doing this. Some people like the tradition of women taking care of their husbands and are happy doing this. If your not happy doing this that’s perfectly fine no one is asking you to. Every wife is different and trust me their is no such thing as the “perfect wife” No one is putting you down for not doing this so why are you judging those that do?

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