Over the years, I’ve read numerous stories from the “perfect” Army wife about getting up with her soldier at o’dark thirty to fix his breakfast, lay out his clothes (freshly ironed, of course) and pack his lunch. She then sends him off on his day while standing by the window smiling and waving.
Even as I write this, I feel like I’m making it up. But I so am not. I know people who do this every day. And my question is…WHY?
I married an adult. If he can be expected to go to a foreign land and fight for our country, I’m fairly certain he can get himself out of bed, fix his breakfast and find his own clothes to put on. I’m not babying him and doing it for him.
First, I’m not a morning person. You don’t want me interacting with you when it’s still dark outside and I haven’t yet gotten in my 12. Promise.
Second, is he up fixing breakfast for me? Is he laying out my clothes for the day? Packing my lunch? Um, the answer to that would be no.
Third, I have a job too. Just because he has to get up in the middle of the night to go to work doesn’t mean I have to.
I’ve always been perplexed by the people who do this for their spouse. Maybe I am a bad Army wife but I’ll live with that title not to wait on my husband hand and foot. When he deploys overseas, will his battle buddy do all these things for him? No! He’ll suddenly become self sufficient and able to take care of himself. If he can do it under those conditions, he can certainly do it at home when his job is somewhat “normal” (by Army standards, anyway).
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